Ah... Men!

From Funny Times

I want to post a general statement regarding men and the ways they utter words, but I didn't want to be accused of making generalizations. So instead, I'll give you samples. Just let me know which one/s you can relate to.

Here it goes:

Man A has the sweetest words for you whenever he wants something from you. Pupugpugin ka niya ng mga salitang "Alam ko namang mabait ka..." just to melt your heart. Papangakuan ka niya ng mga bagay-bagay na alam mong pipiliting niya lang gawin para sa 'yo para makuha niya ang gusto mula sa 'yo. Ikaw naman bilang isang "mabait" na tao would appreciate the gesture more of considering doing the act you want him to do more than doing the deed itself. With that, di mo na malalaman kung gagawin ba niya talaga ang pinangako niya o hindi. Nevertheless, you'd already know that he's that kind of person who would supposedly do anything just to get what he wants. Kaya use it to your advantage. Aalm mo kung pa'no siya paglalawayin at pasusunurin sa 'yo na parang tuta.

Pero ingat!

Itong klaseng lalaki na rin na ito ay marunong magbuhol ng kasinungalingan. Dahil nga kaya niyang mangako, kaya niya ring ipako ito lalo pa kung nakuha na niya ang gusto niya sa 'yo.

Man B has the boyish, innocent charms. With such looks, how can one suspect that he lies? Ito ang klase ng lalaking ginagamit ang kanyang looks para paniwalain ka sa kanyang mga sinasabi. Yet kapag nagkabuko-buko na, napakadali niya ring magsabi ng sorry na parang mae-erase na lahat ng lies niya with such word. Kung aware ka sa power niya, alam mo kung sa'n mo ilulugar ang sarili mo. Alam mo kung kailan didistansya o lalapit.

Pero ingat!

Sa paglapit-lapit mo ay baka tuluyan ka nang mahulog sa patibong niya. He blurs the line between the truth and the lie. At kapag nagkataon, baka pati ikaw ay mawindang na rin sa kanyang mga salita.

(Posted pic is from Funny Times.)

Man C uses his charms by being funny and honest. Mabilis mahuhulog ang loob mo sa kanya just because pinapatawa ka niya. He's honest enough to let you know his (open) commitments to other people. Pinapaalam niya rin sa 'yo ang style niya sa lahat ng mga bagay. Then, he'd tell you that he likes you. Of course, paniniwalaan mo since alam mo namang naging open siya sa 'yo from the start. This so-called honesty is endearing.

Pero ingat!

Ang so-called honesty niya rin ang maglulunod sa 'yo sa putikan. Kung wala ka sa ulirat mo, pwede kang bumigay at madala sa kanyang salita. Kapag nagkataon, napapabilang ka sa mga taong pinaiikot niya sa kanyang mga kamay sa kanyang "katotohanan."

Man D is the sensitive one. He never forgets to acknowledge the things you do for him and the way you feel for him. He's sweet without giving an umay feeling. He's someone you feel like talking to anytime about anything. He seems perfect, but he's not.

Beware!

He's the type who shuts himself out when it comes to his feelings. He is a pretender. He pretends that everything is OK with him even if you know it isn't. He believes that by not talking about issues, they will just go away. In meeting with him, he'd make you feel like nothing wrong has ever happened and acts as if things were just as the way they were before. Yet, when separated from each other, he acts as cold as ice. At palalabasin niya sa iba na OK kayo. So you'd ask yourself, sa'n ka lulugar?

If my post seems disjointed, pasensya na. I'm just venting out. These days kasi, I'm finding it hard to trust people particularly men. Feeling ko ay lagi silang may tinatago sa 'kin. Nagkakataon nga na mayro'n nga! Kapag instinct na ang nagsasabi sa 'yo, 90% tama siya.

Despite receiving one lie after another from a previous relationship, I remained a trusting person. I am positive about the innate goodness of people. Call it gullibility, but I always tend to give them the benefit of the doubt. However, after the six-year relationship ended, I became conscious and wary of what to believe in. I guess, 'yun ang nagagawa kapag ang taong pinagkatiwalaan mo ng husto ang malalaman mong nagsinungaling sa 'yo nang paulit-ulit. Pakiramdam mo'y kung ang taong pinakamalapit sa 'yo ang nanloko sa 'yo, ano pa kaya ang mga taong hindi mo lubusang kilala.

Naitanong ko nga sa Facebook post: Alin ba ang mas masakit, ang malaman mo ang katotohanan o ang malalaman mong pinagsinungalingan ka? While both could hurt badly, mas masakit pa rin malaman na pinagsinungalingan ka. Ang malaman mo kasi ang katotohanan ay isang bagsakan lang. But with the second, you deal with both the truth and the lie. Kung minsan nga'y hindi mo na alam kung alin ang mas mabigat sa pakiramdam.

Effort ang magsinungaling at ang malaman mong nag-effort gumawa ng istorya ang isang tao sa 'yo says a lot about how he/she sees you. Andu'n na 'yung pakiramdam na di ka niya nirespeto sa ginawa niya lalo pa't paulit-ulit na nangyayari. Andu'n na rin ang questions about your self-worth and crushed ego. Napakadaming issues to deal with aside from the truth itself.

(Posted pic is from Cartoon Stock.)

Minsan nga ay mas gugustuhin mo pang 'wag nang tanungin ang issues na bumabagabag sa isip mo dahil baka makakuha ka pa ng kasinungalingan na mas makakasakit pa sa 'yo. You'd rather not know than receive a lie.