No Mega Moments

Biboy and I just saw Music & Lyrics on DVD. We don't really celebrate Valentine's Day. Kasi naman we celebrate our anniversaries kasabay ng birthday ko. We are in our fifth year now. Happy Feet (Fifth) nga namin! Anyway, I just thought that it'd be nice if we watch a romantic movie together. I decided to see M&L with him since he hasn't seen it. Saka it came in handy 'cause I have a copy of the film.

In one of the scenes in the movie, Drew Barrymore's character, Sophie Fisher, sees her former flame and professor Sloan Cates in a restaurant. She wasn't prepared to see him. She has been harboring ill feelings towards him for he has wronged her; using her as a character in a book he had written and portraying her as a "monster" of some sorts. She had every word that she'd like to say to him written on her head once she they meet, only that when they saw each other face to face, she didn't have the courage the muster the words. Thus, she went home feeling stupid as ever.

Gigil na gigil si Biboy sa scene na 'yun. Halos mura-murahin na niya si Sophie for not doing what she intended to do. She should have smacked Sloan in the face and made him feel the pain that she went through. Halos 'di na nga niya tapusin 'yung panonood ng movie. Then I remember his initial reaction when he saw his ex in a mall. He wanted to asked him about the book he borrowed from him but didn't return. Only that he didn't have the guts to. Oh, that guy has wronged him in every way possible, I'm telling you, so he deserves some smacking, too!

I explained to Biboy that, in life, you really don't get to have winning and defining moments with the people who have hurt you. Walang Dorina moments where you get to pour a glass of wine on Lavinia's face. Walang Myrna moments kung sa'n pwede kang maghamon ng away kay Glacilda with matching tanong kung saan, kailan, at paano ang labanan. At lalong-lalong walang Lupe moments kung sa'n pwede mong hampasin ng latigo ang ama-amahan mong umaapi sa inyong mag-ina. Bihira talaga ang pagkakataong taas-noo tayong haharap sa mga umapi at umaway sa 'tin at hahalakhak na parang wala ng bukas.

Life's sweet revenge is subtle at times. Fate has its own way of dealing with bad people. Karma, 'ika nga, na subtly dinaanan ng pelikulang M&L. Sophie got her revenge when Sloan's movie which was based on the book was lambasted by critics and failed at the box-office.

Besides, in my opinion, while it may feel good to have your "revenge," one does not need it. What is important is to let go of the past and let it be a reminder of what you were (and not what you are). Yes, people may have hurt you yet the pains should made you grow stronger and wiser. It is those who can't let go that suffer in the end. 'Di naman 'ata masarap sa pakiramdam ang magbuhat ng kabigat-bigat na bagahe habang tinatahak mo ang daan ng buhay. Not only it won't get you far, it limits your ability to deal with other people who have good intentions for you.

So stand proud despite the pains and humiliations! 'Ika nga sa Bibliya, mapalad ang mga inaapi dahil kakamtan nila ang biyaya ng langit. Like what Sophie did, by casting away her shadows overhead, she was able to go her way back into love! Di ba ang galeng?